there are marriages like this
the one in the movie
with the racial slurs and violence
then there are marriages like mine
where moments of frustration
turn into passion in the shower

you will never see this

only the kindness
the polite words
that bleed through every moment
you spend with him

you will never have
the gentleness laced with lust
that makes him the man for me

i put it here now
as our daughters rest
as we move to Spain
as we post on Facebook
the reality of everyday life

but no one ever writes
the reality of everyday life
just the marriages we see
the ones only we
deep down in our closets
know for the painlovepain
that seeps out
that seeps into our souls